We often hear people talking about falling in love but when is the last time that you fell in love with yourself?
A lot of people are already shaking their heads after reading that first sentence. They think that I am nuts but let me tell you a secret. How can we love others in life, if we do not truly love ourselves?
If we do not like the person who lives inside of our bodies, we are not happy? We can not find joy anywhere no matter how much we seek it.
The trick to fall in love with ourselves based strictly on our opinion and experience, is to get up each day and while brushing our teeth, look at ourselves the mirror.
Oh, you do not like looking at yourself in the mirror? Have you ever thought as to why? Maybe you do not like who you are. Maybe you have physical flaws that you do not enjoy seeing.
Well, let me tell you. You may not can change the physical imperfections but you can learn to accept them and come to love that part of you. We are only human. Each of us have our flaws that we might like to change. However, instead of changing them, why not learn to accept them? Others accept them in us without us even realizing it.
Now on to the inter self. What do you not like about the inside of the wonderful person that you can be/are? Do you have fear, hate, anxiety, jealous feelings, regrets, or many other feelings, eating you alive each and everyday of your life?
You can change all of that. Learn to love yourself and those feelings will vanish in time. So here is my challenge to you. Do this twice a day everyday for at least 30 days. Promise not me but yourself that you will do it. It has been researched and shown that it only takes 30 days to make or break a habit.
Look in that mirror and tell yourself that you are a wonderful worthwhile human being. Tell yourself that you love you and mean it. You might feel silly doing it but do it anyway. Remember everyday for 30 days. After those thirty days are up, you will find yourself doing it without thinking.
In time, the bad feelings you are carrying around in your heart not only about yourself but for others, will start go away. Why? Because you very well may fall in love with yourself all over again. I did.
We fall in and out of love with ourselves from time to time. However, if we practice deciding to have a great attitude, showing love for others from our heart, not allowing fear to control our feelings…and these are just a few thoughts on this, we will start to see ourselves as a wonderful worth while person. Someone that we can love. Not only that but we will find that people will notice that we are different. They may not know exactly what it is that has changed, but they will start to respond to us in a very positive way.
Now, go find that mirror.
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