As women we get involved with a man and we have a tendency to think that what they say or do is true. That is really something that we need to work on because men do not have the same way of looking at things as we do. For instance if a man says that he loves us, we think that he means that he is in love with us. That is not always the case. What they really mean is that they love in their way. We can love people and not be in love with them.
A man is driven by sex and he will be the nice guy that we expect to achieve his goal. We on the other hand may want sex but we also want a commitment to go with it. Just because a man says he loves us and then we have sex with them doesn’t mean that he will commit to a relationship. So many men want to have a good sex life but they are not willing to give up their freedom to have it with just one woman.
Think about this for a moment. If a woman is willing to have sex without a firm commitment, then why should the man be devoted to just that one woman? He may see someone else that he finds attractive and if she is willing, he will have sex with her too. He doesn’t think a thing about it because he is driven by his sex drive. It is called testosterone.
This is nothing new and we women should know it. When we were dating as teenagers, our boyfriends wanted to have sex with us and that desire never ever goes away. Even if a man is not capable of having sex, he still thinks, dreams and plans for a way that he might be able to.
Why do you suppose that there are so many things on the market for men? There is a pill that they can take to enlarge their penis, and then there is a pump, that a man can use to make himself hard. It doesn’t do him any good because he is not able to get off using the pump but he can have sex with a woman and that in itself is enough for us to understand, that sex is at the core of every man’s being.
The issue of sex as we get older is just as hard of an issue to deal with as it was when we were virgins. The problem now is that we want to have a sexual relationship with someone that we truly care for, but we do not want them to be in and out of bed with other women. How are we to know if they are or aren’t? We could ask them but they might not tell us the truth. It is a difficult issue at most. It is something that needs time to decide. I suppose what we have to do is see if the man is truly interested in just being with us in the first place before we commit.
How do we do that you may ask? It is reasonably simple. We watch his behavior. If he has too many excuses as to why he can’t make a date, it may be because he isn’t really interested enough to make the effort. If he doesn’t take the time to call just to hear our voice, then he doesn’t want to hear our voice. They might say that they didn’t have the time. I call that crap.
Let me ask you a question. If he isn’t at work and he isn’t sleeping, he is usually in his car driving to work or home. What is wrong with his cell phone? Most men have a cell phone today. Two minutes is just about enough time for a man to let a woman know that she has been at the center of his thoughts that day. Two minutes is enough time for most women to be satisfied that he cares.
When you ask him to come to a function and he says that he sort of planned to go to a friend’s home for an occasion but that he is not sure, that is being totally unfair. He then tells you later and usually at the last moment, that he has decided to go to the friend’s house. He may be going to a friend’s house or he might have been waiting for another offer from another woman. Or it could be as simple as he just didn’t want to make the effort to spend the day with you. So what do you think now? Do you make an excuse for him and keep seeing him or do you finally find some pride that you have been hiding from yourself and dump him?