The Living Go On Living

When someone we loved dies, what do we do?  There isn’t much we can do.  We can offer comfort to the family or lean a hand any way that we can.  Other than that, all we can do is keep on living.

Death never changes.  Anytime that we lose someone we love, we hurt.  The pain is so bad.  Our hearts hurt.  We cry and cry because our emotions can not conceive the loss.  We have to realize that we will never see or speak to that person again in our entire life.  The main thing to remember when we lose someone to death is what we all should be doing in life.  What we should do each day.  Let the people we love know how much.  Not just by using words.  Words are cheap.  We need to do things to show them.  As the saying goes, we are our actions.  Or maybe that was actions speaks louder than words.

I lost a dear, dear friend last week.  He died in a car wreck.  Looking back, I see how that we always showed each other how much we cared.  He was a young man about my son’s age.  He always came by to visit me after growing up.  He would have a photo of his son or something.  Sometimes, he just needed to talk.  Sometimes, he just wanted to visit.  He was going though a divorce and I just listened.  I could have spoken up to say what I thought.  However, when people are having a hard time in life, it’s hard to listen to what others have to say.  The same thoughts keep spinning inside their brains.  So, the best thing is to just listen.  Let them know that you care enough about them to just be there for them day or night.

Life can be shorter than we plan.  We all plan to grow old and some do.  Others are not so blessed and die young.  My friend was only forty.  He had everything to live for in life.  He had a four-year old son that was the light of his life.  His son will miss the joy of growing up with a wonderful dad.

Just remember that we never know what tomorrow will bring.  Reach out to those you love.  Let them know how much they mean to you.  I am glad that I did.

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Charlotte
    Apr 08, 2010 @ 23:02:56

    Could I have a poc please..I want to check to see ifthis is the same person..thank you very much

    Reply

  2. PΔUL
    Feb 02, 2010 @ 14:44:11

    Life can sometimes play such cruel tricks. I guess we all learn to cope with the “normal” ups and downs, but something like this is so far off the scale it can be hard to feel anything but numb.
    I feel deeply for you but my instinct says you will bounce back, in time.

    Reply

  3. Young Werther
    Jan 27, 2010 @ 16:46:21

    It can be so difficult to listen, listening with all your heart without offering an opinion or advice. Bren, you’re a great friend, understanding and compassionate.

    Reply

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